Quote Of The Week

In every institution, there is a leader. We have a President as our leader in Nigeria. There are Governors as leaders over every state. There are Local Government chairmen over every city: police chiefs over policemen, teachers over students, employers over employees, parents over children, etc. Why would it be ANY different in marriage?

Two leaders never work. Many Christians believe in ‘mutual submission.’ The Bible never commands that a husband submit to his wife. As women that I mentor understand this principle, their marriages become healed. There is no more arguing and fighting since there is only one leader in their home. Yes, please voice your opinions and desires to your husband but then allow him to lead and decide.

Most women are repulsed at the idea that they have to listen to anybody or that anyone would tell them what to do, YET many go to work every day and listen to and obey their boss. Their boss is not their husband who they promised to love all the days of their life through good times and bad times, through sickness and health. They easily obey their boss who doesn’t love them and hasn’t committed his life to them, yet they are repulsed by hearing they should obey their husbands who have committed their lives to them. Out of all the men in the world, THEY have chosen to marry this one man, their husband, and live with him until death do they part.

Your goal should be to have a peaceful home. Children thrive in a peaceful home where love and kindness abound. A house divided falls but a home united stands. When a wife truly loves her husband and desires to please him by obeying him, there is peace. What makes your husband happy? What are his favorite foods? How does he like you to keep up your home? What does he like to do in his free time? What does he like you to wear?

I challenge you women to begin being a help meet to your husband. As I have written before, begin smiling at him and treating him with the respect and kindness he deserves as your husband. Stop arguing with him and allow him to lead. This is the way God intended marriages to function and since He created us and marriage, He definitely knows the best way for marriages to thrive.